Warning for any men reading this .......if your girlfriend has told you that she is taking you out for a random , no occasion romantic meal for 2 tonight or has got tickets to be in the audience of a television show , you WILL be getting proposed to , especially there in front of the nations viewing public or a bunch of waiters who were hoping for a quiet Monday night so they could go home early .
Yes it's 29th February , a leap year , when tradition says that a woman can propose to the love of her life ....hang on a minute , let me check my calendar , yep , as I thought , it IS 2016 and women have been relatively liberated for quite a few years now , so why do we keep these ancient traditions?
I honestly don't know the reasons behind this tradition , I just remember every 4 years , various television shows do the 'do you want to propose to your boyfriend?' feature and they probably will for decades to come .
I don't really think of myself as terribly traditional , but I guess I must be as the thought of having to propose to someone is totally alien to me(I know I don't HAVE to , it's okay!!) If I proposed to a guy there would always be the thoughts at the back of my head 'would he have ever proposed to me, did I force his hand , does he REALLY want to be my Husband?'
I do wonder wether men feel like this when they propose but I guess not as it's more 'normal' for a man to do the asking and I do always feel sorry for anyone who has a public proposal as I feel that this is a special thing between 2 people and if you really didn't want to get married ....how do you say so in front of an audience ?
However I admit to loving a video that was all over Facebook last year , where a guy created a music video asking his girlfriend to marry him in a cinema packed full of their friends and family , any man who goes to all of that trouble to propose is a keeper !!
So anyway congratulations if you get engaged today , I wish you a long and happy marriage and all the love in the world X X
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Sunday, 28 February 2016
Saturday, 27 February 2016
More sex please , we're British
Okay , let me start by saying that if you are of a nervous disposition , you don't like dialogue of a sexual nature of you are under 16 please stop reading .I would maybe have included the reserved and repressed Brotish in the above warning , but not after tonight!
Like many people in the UK my Mum & I watch 'Gogglebox' regularly , some of the programmes featured are ones that we already watch and some aren't . Sometimes there is a show on there that catches our eye, either we meant to watch it & forgot or we see the clips of it and think ,why not !
One of the programmes featured on this weeks show was one on Channel 4 called 'The Great British Sex Survey' and the clips we were shown included a man who liked quite extreme latex suits and another who made realistic 'sex dolls' one of which belonged to a man in Jersey who liked to take it out shopping and to the pub with him.
So we decided to get this show on catch up to see if it really was as weird as it looked in the clips and we weren't disappointed.
It counted down the top 10 turn one or kinks in the UK , everything from cross dressing to toys , sex dolls to bdsm and all things in between .
One thing made me laugh and wonder if it was just the Brits that do this.
Apparently there is etiquette with regards to threesomes. A little book of dos and dont's when you are having fun with more than one person.
These etiquette tips were given by a lady who had a degree in all things sexual , yes a degree . I know you can go to university and study a wide range of subjects these days but I do wonder what the practical side of the course involved , but I digress.
Is it just the Brits that abide by a set of rules about how to pick up an additional partner , what to touch and when and how not to leave anyone out of anything that's going on? Can you imagine the more passionate Europeans , the Italians or Spanish checking their 'little book of threesomes' before they start off ? No me neither
This gives the impression that the Brits are still reserved and uptight with regards to anything sexual but after watching this programme that's clearly not the case at all !!! X X
Like many people in the UK my Mum & I watch 'Gogglebox' regularly , some of the programmes featured are ones that we already watch and some aren't . Sometimes there is a show on there that catches our eye, either we meant to watch it & forgot or we see the clips of it and think ,why not !
One of the programmes featured on this weeks show was one on Channel 4 called 'The Great British Sex Survey' and the clips we were shown included a man who liked quite extreme latex suits and another who made realistic 'sex dolls' one of which belonged to a man in Jersey who liked to take it out shopping and to the pub with him.
So we decided to get this show on catch up to see if it really was as weird as it looked in the clips and we weren't disappointed.
It counted down the top 10 turn one or kinks in the UK , everything from cross dressing to toys , sex dolls to bdsm and all things in between .
One thing made me laugh and wonder if it was just the Brits that do this.
Apparently there is etiquette with regards to threesomes. A little book of dos and dont's when you are having fun with more than one person.
These etiquette tips were given by a lady who had a degree in all things sexual , yes a degree . I know you can go to university and study a wide range of subjects these days but I do wonder what the practical side of the course involved , but I digress.
Is it just the Brits that abide by a set of rules about how to pick up an additional partner , what to touch and when and how not to leave anyone out of anything that's going on? Can you imagine the more passionate Europeans , the Italians or Spanish checking their 'little book of threesomes' before they start off ? No me neither
This gives the impression that the Brits are still reserved and uptight with regards to anything sexual but after watching this programme that's clearly not the case at all !!! X X
The Dating Game
There seems to be a trend on UK television at the moment for dating programmes , not like the old fashioned 'Blind Date' or the ultra tacky 'Take Me Out' but proper programmes where people are trying to find their true love.
The most successful of these is 'First Dates' where couples go on a blind date in a London restaurant , watched my the viewing public . They are matched according to their likes , dislikes etc and sometimes it works and sometimes it really , really doesn't .
Moving on from straight forward dating shows the next type is shows for people who don't necessarily find it that easy to find a date .The first one of these is 'The Undateables' where the participants have conditions ranging from Downs Syndrome to Aspergers , Tourette's to learning difficulties . They are matched with people , some of whom have similar conditions and some that don't . This is quite an innocent show , a lot of the people taking part have never had a date before and maybe without the help of the show they wouldn't have the courage to do so.
The third programme in the genre that I know of is one called 'Too Ugly For Love' the title itself an unsettling one. Nobody is 'too ugly' for love , every cup has a saucer as they say.
People in this show also have a condition that affects their confidence to be on the dating scene but to call them ugly is going way too far in my opinion.
The conditions range from alopecia , hirsutism , having a mastectomy , vitiligo, being an amputee and skin conditions.
Yes these conditions may make someone feel self conscious when first meeting a new person and therefore they find it hard to date but in no way do any of these things make them ugly.
I personally know people with some of these conditions and they would not put me off dating them at all but the programme kind of treats them like they are never going to find love because they are different , which is totally unfair.
I think it's time we started to embrace things that are different about people , get to know the person for who they are , not for what ailment or condition is hidden under makeup or clothing that they are scared to reveal X X
The most successful of these is 'First Dates' where couples go on a blind date in a London restaurant , watched my the viewing public . They are matched according to their likes , dislikes etc and sometimes it works and sometimes it really , really doesn't .
Moving on from straight forward dating shows the next type is shows for people who don't necessarily find it that easy to find a date .The first one of these is 'The Undateables' where the participants have conditions ranging from Downs Syndrome to Aspergers , Tourette's to learning difficulties . They are matched with people , some of whom have similar conditions and some that don't . This is quite an innocent show , a lot of the people taking part have never had a date before and maybe without the help of the show they wouldn't have the courage to do so.
The third programme in the genre that I know of is one called 'Too Ugly For Love' the title itself an unsettling one. Nobody is 'too ugly' for love , every cup has a saucer as they say.
People in this show also have a condition that affects their confidence to be on the dating scene but to call them ugly is going way too far in my opinion.
The conditions range from alopecia , hirsutism , having a mastectomy , vitiligo, being an amputee and skin conditions.
Yes these conditions may make someone feel self conscious when first meeting a new person and therefore they find it hard to date but in no way do any of these things make them ugly.
I personally know people with some of these conditions and they would not put me off dating them at all but the programme kind of treats them like they are never going to find love because they are different , which is totally unfair.
I think it's time we started to embrace things that are different about people , get to know the person for who they are , not for what ailment or condition is hidden under makeup or clothing that they are scared to reveal X X
Tuesday, 16 February 2016
rewind to the 80s
I was born in 1974 so I suppose you could say the 80s were 'my decade' when it came to fashion and music ,I suppose I was just like anyone else when it can to music but fashion was a different story
We didn't have a huge amount of money to spend on new , disposable fashions from places like Top Shop and Dorothy Perkins , there was a shop in our village called 'Classy Birds' , great name , that was where we got most of our clothes .
I also had some hand me downs from a girl up the road who was quite fashionable. I remember in particular a white and grey bomber jacket from Topshop and a t-shirt with ribbons on the shoulder but please never speak of the navy blue , ribbed , zip up school cardigan that still gives me nightmares !!
I had the best pair of pale pink canvas pixie boots that I pestered myMum for and I wore them until they were literally more holes than boot , I LOVED them !!
The 80s weren't quite so kind to hairstyles , I'm sure everyone can remember the perms they had but one trend that goes down in history as the most horrible has to be 'The Mullet'
Who can forget the long at the back , short on top (sometimes curly)style that was so popular for men and women , they try to forget but sadly can't , photographs haunt anyone who ever had this cut .
But at the time people thought they looked amazing , hairdressers prided themselves on this horror cut and you were the coolest person around if you went for this cut
So now to the present day , is there a fashion that we are all going to look back at in 30 years time with the same horror we reserve for the mullet .......yes
THE BEARD!!!
When I was young 2 types of people had beards , hard rockers and geography teachers , not normal , hunky ,gorgeous men that you'd want to go out with AT ALL . But now it seems that every guy between 17 and 70 is sprouting a 'hipster beard' , yes even the hunky , fit ones , David Beckham has dabbled , Brad Pitt & George Clooney just to mention a few but also your average perfectly normal guy on every high street .
I can't help thinking that the beard is the mullet for this generation . In years to come children will look through their parents old Instagram accounts and exclaim in horror how Dad had face fuzz and Mum was orange , just as the offspring from my generation look at photo albums of us and laugh.
I suppose dodgy fashion is just something we all have to go through , we all think we look amazing at the time , despite our parents laughing at us and I guess it gives the next generation ammunition when they hear 'you're not going out looking like that' X X
Monday, 15 February 2016
Man Flu
Last week while sitting in the bath I had an idea for a blog post about the dreaded 'man flu' but to be honest by the time I'd got out of the bath my energy and enthusiasm was gone , taken away by the lurgy that had annoyed me for over a fortnight.
BUT IT WASN'T FLU
It annoys me SO much when people go onto Facebook , Twitter or whatever to moan and groan about the terrible flu they've got
STOP - if you have flu you wouldn't give a damn about telling the world , you'd be too busy curled up in bed , barely able to sit up , never mind join in with social media . You would be hot , then cold , feel achy in every part of your body , no appetite, no energy , no nothing .
So if I see "I've got such bad flu" posted by anyone I have to resist the urge to correct them but of course they are probably on their way to the doctors to get antibiotics that won't work on flu anyway !!
IT'S A COLD !!
X X
BUT IT WASN'T FLU
It annoys me SO much when people go onto Facebook , Twitter or whatever to moan and groan about the terrible flu they've got
STOP - if you have flu you wouldn't give a damn about telling the world , you'd be too busy curled up in bed , barely able to sit up , never mind join in with social media . You would be hot , then cold , feel achy in every part of your body , no appetite, no energy , no nothing .
So if I see "I've got such bad flu" posted by anyone I have to resist the urge to correct them but of course they are probably on their way to the doctors to get antibiotics that won't work on flu anyway !!
IT'S A COLD !!
X X
Laugh out loud ?
So Stephen Fry has decided to close his Twitter account and flounce off due to someone taking offence at a joke he made or something ?
When will these comedians learn that they are not allowed to make jokes .........oh hang on a minute , they are comedians , isn't that exactly what they are supposed to do ?
Ricky Gervais is employed to present award shows in America , Ricky Gervais says what he thinks , everyone knows that but of course someone always gets offended by his sense of humour ........you employ Ricky Gervais someone WILL be offended , simple as that.
I have a sometimes misunderstood sense of humour myself , slightly dry and sarcastic , hopefully never cruel but often met with blank looks or misinterpretation, in some ways it's a clever sense of humour , in others it's extremely silly but it's mine !!
I personally think that people are far too quick to take offence these days , most of us are able to tell a joke from bullying , trolling or just plain mean behaviour , maybe the world would be a better place if people laughed and smiled a bit more but that's just my opinion and we all know opinions are even more dangerous than a sense of humour !! X X
When will these comedians learn that they are not allowed to make jokes .........oh hang on a minute , they are comedians , isn't that exactly what they are supposed to do ?
Ricky Gervais is employed to present award shows in America , Ricky Gervais says what he thinks , everyone knows that but of course someone always gets offended by his sense of humour ........you employ Ricky Gervais someone WILL be offended , simple as that.
I have a sometimes misunderstood sense of humour myself , slightly dry and sarcastic , hopefully never cruel but often met with blank looks or misinterpretation, in some ways it's a clever sense of humour , in others it's extremely silly but it's mine !!
I personally think that people are far too quick to take offence these days , most of us are able to tell a joke from bullying , trolling or just plain mean behaviour , maybe the world would be a better place if people laughed and smiled a bit more but that's just my opinion and we all know opinions are even more dangerous than a sense of humour !! X X
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