Mad dogs ………….

 I joked yesterday that I was going to write a blog about climate change given as how we are about to be hit by the hottest weather since forever but I actually know nothing about it , I’m not scientifically minded , I know when it’s hot and I know when it’s cold and that’s enough for me ! 

What I do know is that my dogs don’t like the hot weather , they are restless , can’t get comfortable and just generally can’t be bothered when the temperature gets to a certain point , being short nosed dogs they are unable to get enough cool air into their nostrils and that makes them vulnerable to heatstroke 

And that brings me to the point of this blog (about time you say ?) 

There are still people around who think it’s okay to take their dogs out for walks when it’s this hot , dragging them round the parks or the streets as they pant , trying to keep a little bit cool 

And the people who take their dogs everywhere (she doesn’t like to be apart from me) but then leave them in the car while they ‘just pop to the shops , I’ll only be a minute’

What is actually going through these peoples minds , have they got a brain ? Walking on hot pavement with bare paws is torture for a dog and can cause blistering and burns on the pads of the feet , exercise in hot weather can lead to collapse and death and leaving a dog in a car in this weather is criminal , it’s basically boiling your dog from the inside 

A slightly opened window does not make it okay , except it may make it slightly easier for a concerned passer by to break into your car and free your poor hound 

I know it’s not always possible to take your dog out in the early hours or extra late at night but to be honest it’s not going to be much cooler then so here’s an idea ……..why not skip the walk completely!! Your dog will not suffer from missing a days walk , even 2 or 3 days and you are doing the right thing in terms of their wellbeing 

So just be careful , be sensible and if I see you walking your dog in the heat or leaving it in the car , you’re going to learn a few new swear words and I won’t be at all apologetic xx 

Platonic with a capital P

“Do you think it's possible for 2 people to have a general conversation about sex & technique without one trying it on with the other, or at least wanting to and/or wondering what they're like?”

This question was on my Twitter feed last night and it’s a question I have always found fascinating myself 

For years films have had us believe that in every ‘platonic’ male and female friendship there is one that secretly fancies the other and they do usually end up falling for each other in the end 

Even in ‘When Harry Met Sally’ the film that asked that very question ‘Can a man and a woman ever just be friends ?’ they made Billy Crystal fall for Meg Ryan in the end (don’t tell him about her various screen liaisons with Tom Hanks , it would break his heart) 

Personally I’ve always got on better with men than women , I think it is because I was bought up with 2 older Brothers and was used to their friends being around all the time 

I got very good at standing my ground and answering back to their teasing and banter and never wondered about them intimately at all , they were mates not lads ! 

I do have women friends obviously but I always feel I can’t open up quite as much with them as male friends , there seems an undercurrent of judgement from some of them and there is always the potential for bitchy comments ….you don’t get that with men !! 

At school I was the girl that the lads came too when they were having problems with their girlfriends , totally friendzone stuff and I’ll admit I did fancy some of them , of course I did . I had some lads crying in my arms over a girl that had upset them , I got to see their vulnerable side which I don’t think many other girls do at that age , they only saw the macho ‘trying to impress’ side 

Some girls and later women weren’t keen on their men having a female friend and didn’t quite get that I wasn’t a threat to their relationship at all , if anything I gave the lads a female perspective that might have helped ! 

So onto the present day and that question on Twitter , I replied that I do have those conversations with male friends and from my point of view it’s quite comfortable and I have no thoughts about seeing them naked at all and that’s the honest truth but also I said that that was only my side of it and I could not speak for my friends 

Then this morning the subject came up with one of my male friends who had seen that tweet and he said he feels exactly the same , he loves the fact that he can speak openly and honestly about more or less anything in his life with me and he knows there will be no judgement, no awkwardness and no sexual tension . He confirmed to me that he has absolutely no desire in seeing my bits either and just doesn’t think of me in that way , in fact we agreed that it would feel a bit like incest , very yucky and wrong and our friendship is worth way more than anything else !! 

So to confirm , men and women CAN be just friends, they can share their thoughts and feelings about intimate matters and still maintain the barriers of a platonic friendship 

Yes there can be harmless joking and flirting but that’s it , absolutely nothing else  xx