I’d just like to say you look really gorgeous today and that colour looks great on you ,it makes your eyes look so bright and vibrant
If you are anything like me being told the above would elicit an embarrassed response, I find it extremely difficult to accept compliments without making a derogatory comeback
“I love that dress on you “ ……….. “I need to lose a few pounds and it would look better”
“Your hair looks amazing” ……….”ahh right , it badly needs washing”
“Your glasses are such a nice colour” ……… “they hide my eye bags well”
Do these sound familiar ? Are these the responses you would give ? Why not just say “thanks so much , that’s kind of you” , is it an English thing , this embarrassed modesty ?
I see it all the time on Twitter and not just amongst women , one man who has flawless skin and a youthful face replied “I look like a potato” when complimented , another always draws attention to eye wrinkles and weight is always an issue , too skinny or too fat.
And even compliments on things people have made get the same responses , not just looks. Why can’t we be proud of our achievements, will people think we are showing off ?
With encouragement from friends I am learning to accept when people are being complimentary, I will say “thankyou so much , that’s very kind of you” instead of something negative but it is sometimes quite hard to do , nearly 49 years of brushing off compliments is a tricky habit to break!! xx
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